9-peace

All the pledges

Goals
Learners implement what they have learnt about solving conflicts peacefully in their daily lives.

Guidelines
See the guidelines on pledges in the previous units.

Ask the students to find 5 peers and let them encourage their peers to take the pledge too.
Here are all the pledges. Encourage learners to keep these as they go forward from the program. See also the make activity.

Pledges for a nonviolent lifestyle

I can build my self-confidence by reminding myself every day that I love myself the way I am.

I can think before I react.
I will take a few deep breaths and count to ten before reacting.

When I am involved in a conflict I can respond assertively by telling the person how I feel and asking them not to behave in that way again. I don't have to run or fight.

Conflict does not need to be resolved immediately. I can tell the person that I am too upset or angry right now to respond but that I would like to come back to talk about it later.

There is power in nonviolence. I will remind myself that there is strength and dignity in gentle firmness.

I can develop more self-discipline. By choosing one task and committing myself to doing every day for the next week.

I can use 'I-messages' to react assertively
I feel ... (state your own feeling here - not an idea or judgment)
when you ... (tell the person what he/she has done to make you feel this way - keep to the facts)
because ... (give them a reason for why this action makes you feel this way)
and so .... (what you want them to do in future

I will join groups and choose friends that have a positive effect on me.

I will be accountable and responsible for my actions towards members of my own and the opposite sex.

I will actively listen to others and try to understand them. By not interrupting them when they speak and not being ready with my own story before they finish.